Who We Are

/Who We Are
Who We Are 2017-04-07T18:51:45+00:00

Clarence is husband to Brenda, father to three young adult daughter (he’s the minority in their sorority), author, marriage counselor, speaker, and life & relationship coach.

He is the President/CEO of BLR: Building Lasting Relationships. For nearly 30 years, Clarence and Brenda have conducted marriage, discipleship, men’s, women’s, and single seminars internationally. They are members of Dennis Rainey’s FamilyLife Weekend To Remember Marriage Speaker Team. They’ve taught for The Billy Graham Schools of Evangelism -teaching Balancing Marriage/Family & Ministry. Clarence assists the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services (Administration for Children & Families) with its National African American Healthy Marriage Initiative. He is a founding member of the Coalition for Black Marriages/Families. Clarence, Dr. Garry James and Dr. Jeff Shears have created Healthy Family Seminar, which addresses child abuse, fathering and relationships. He’s certified in Marriage Education for Professional Training. As a Life & Relationship Coach, Clarence helps executives effectively manage their personal and professional lives, finding fulfillment in both.

He’s been featured several times in Essence Magazine, Discipleship Journal, Black Enterprise and other magazines as well as radio, including Dr. Gary Chapman’s Building Relationships and Boundless, a singles podcast produced by Focus on the Family.

Faith-Based & Non-Religious Diversity seminars, a vital aspect of BLR, provides businesses, churches, educational institutions and military desiring to reflect all people within their organizations with Clarence’s forty plus years of professional cross-cultural experience. He’s taught as an adjunct professor at numerous educational institutions.

As a Diversity Consultant, he has assisted numerous clients through his diversity seminars and/or hiring people of color and women in decision-making positions including the War College of U.S. Air Force, U.S. Army’s European base Equal Opportunity Advisors, Evangelical Free Church of America, Moody Bible Institute, Navigators, Association of Christian Schools International, Wycliffe Bible Translators, Fellowship of Christian Athletes, Crowell & Orchard Foundations, and Mississippi Valley State University (Historically Black College). These are just a few of BLR’s diversity clients.

Clarence is the former President of Moody Bible Institute’s Alumni Board of Directors. He is also on the board of Ramah International, a ministry to post-abortive women and men. Brenda and Clarence help military marriages, especially in the area of overcoming affairs and surviving deployment.

He’s authored six books, including Winning the Race to Unity (Moody Publishing) used by colleges and graduate schools as a textbook, inspiring Wheaton College’s first ever Civil Rights Movement Conference! Keeping Your Wife Your Best Friend (Cool Springs Publishing). He co-authored with Dr. Jeff Shears, Professor of Sociology at the University of North Carolina-Greensboro, Your Fathering Really Does Matter. Clarence’s newest book is Single and Free to Be Me.


Brenda works with Clarence, running BLR: Building Lasting Relationships as the administrator for this ministry, also speaking with Clarence, when they conduct marriage seminars in the U.S. and internationally. They both speak nationally at Family Life’s Weekend to Remember Marriage Conferences. Additionally, together they counsel pre-married and married couples. Brenda is a Vice President Life Network, an outreach to post abortive women and men. She helps women heal from their post abortive wounds through a specific Bible study and a memorial service for the aborted children and their mothers. Furthermore, she’s the administrator for the Shuler family!

Brenda graduated from the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, MI with a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology. She then continued her education at Southwestern Southern Baptist Theological Seminary in Fort Worth, Texas, receiving a Masters of Arts in Religious Education. She received her Doctorate of Divinity from Denver Institute of Urban Studies and Adult College May 15, 2005.

She is a former Bible teacher for a citywide Women’s Bible Study.

Brenda and Clarence have been married for nearly 30 years and have three young adult daughters. Brenda has been a pastor’s wife, a stay at home mom, a Children’s Leader for Bible Study Fellowship, and a Children’s Librarian for the Tulsa Library System. in Bible Study Fellowship for seven years, along with a number of other responsibilities in church ministries such as pastors wife, nursery, meals, flowers, etc.

As a Christian for more than 30 years, Brenda’s desire is to love the Lord and seek His guidance for her life. She loves being a wife and mother and tries to encourage other women to find enjoyment in these life-changing and life-shaping roles in which God has placed them.

Brenda currently resides in Colorado Springs with Clarence.

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